I got rejected yesterday. I got rejected by two law schools that I had high hopes of one day attending. It was my first rejection in this big crazy mess that I'm attempting to call law school. I failed. To say I wasn't upset would be lying, but instead of that deep sadness I thought rejection would bring, it actually encouraged me. (weird, I know.) It made me want this more, it made me fully realize that this isn't a walk in the park. It made me want to chase this goal of mine with even more vengeance. I realized that this is ultimately what I want to do, nothing else, nothing more. I want to be a lawyer, and even though I've been initially rejected, someone, some school out there wants me. So, keep your fingers crossed (I sure am) because one day, hopefully May 2013, I'll be walking across another stage, with another degree, ready to take on this world.
Everything happens for a reason. Sometimes things fall apart just so others can fall together. But in the end what’s meant to be will always find its way.
Recently I’ve been thinking a lot about the word love. What is love…how do I see it? According to the dictionary – love is a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. It is as passionate as a love affair – it is desire. It seems like in the past year, there have been more engagements, more weddings, and more giant elaborate showcases of love… way more then I will ever need.
I guess I’m having a hard time believing in that kind of love. For those that read this blog, it’s apparent that I’m a cynical, obviously single girl trying to figure out myself, while trying to figure out this powerful emotion called love. I’ve been watching a lot of Boy Meets World and in one of the very first episodes Mr. Feeney talks about love as the most powerful force in the universe. It’s the only force that cannot be explained and it’s one of the only things that can truly change the world. While Mr. Feeney does have an amazing way with words and ideas he’s not the only one who’s jumped on the love bandwagon. In the past two weeks I’ve watched 2 of my best girlfriends jump, wholeheartedly into this passionate love affair we call engagement. I could not be more happy for them, they have found something and someone that they value greater then themselves. But what if I’m not supposed to find that? What if my life purpose is to be a great lawyer, a great friend, sister, and daughter but never to be a great wife? What if? I’ve been having a lot of conversations with friends about this idea. I’ve talked to friends that are single and share my sentiment and those who are serial monogamists that don’t understand what it means to ever be single. But I’ve reached a conclusion – it’s fairly long so try to keep up. I’m always the single one. In a group of about 10 best friends, I’m the single one, I don’t do relationships. Yes, I’ve had relationships, but never five years, three years, I’ve never lived with a boyfriend. Like I’ve said before I’m a relationship-phobe. But what I’ve learned is that I honestly don’t believe God would give me this love for people, and this great amount of love in my heart if I wasn’t supposed to find someone to give it too. So, while I’m almost 23, single and more confused than I was as a 15 year old freshman in highschool, I’m starting to find peace. I’m learning that right now, in this moment, being alone means I’m free – free to find myself before I find my true love. I can find my vocation and ultimately find me. I’m learning to find peace in the fact that old relationships do come back and that new ones will come and when I find ‘the one’ all this will be worth it. I’ve realized that the tingles on my arms and the butterflies in my stomach will come back in time, and that everything I want to happen, will happen, if I decide I want it. And at the most, I’ve realized that every time I think a sad thought, I can just think a happy one instead. I think real love is always fated. It has been arranged before time. It is the most meticulously prepared of coincidences. And fate, of course, is simply a secular term for the will of God and coincidence for His grace. So, after all my thoughts of love, I still believe it to be the most powerful emotion one can exhibit, I do believe it can change the world – and I do believe it will change mine.
And like Sandra Bullock said tonight at the Academy Awards, “We are all deserving of love.”
It gets harder everyday but I can't seem to shake the pain
I'm trying to find the words to say, please say
It's written all over my face
I can't function the same when you're not here
I'm calling your name and no one's there
And I hope one day you'll see nobody has it easy
I still can't believe you found somebody new
But I wish you the best, I guess
'Cause everybody knows that nobody really knows
How to make it work or how to ease the hurt
We've heard it all before everybody knows just how to make it right
I wish we gave it one more try, one more try, one more try
'Cause everybody knows but nobody really knows
I don't care what the people say, they're probably lonely anyway
Baby don't fill up your head with he said, she said
It seems like you just don't know, don't know
The radio's on, you tuning me out
I'm trying to speak, you're turning me down
And I hope one day you'll see, nobody has it easy
I still can't believe you found somebody new
But I wish you the best, I guess
I'm trying to find the words to say, please say
It's written all over my face
I can't function the same when you're not here
I'm calling your name and no one's there
And I hope one day you'll see nobody has it easy
I still can't believe you found somebody new
But I wish you the best, I guess
'Cause everybody knows that nobody really knows
How to make it work or how to ease the hurt
We've heard it all before everybody knows just how to make it right
I wish we gave it one more try, one more try, one more try
'Cause everybody knows but nobody really knows
I don't care what the people say, they're probably lonely anyway
Baby don't fill up your head with he said, she said
It seems like you just don't know, don't know
The radio's on, you tuning me out
I'm trying to speak, you're turning me down
And I hope one day you'll see, nobody has it easy
I still can't believe you found somebody new
But I wish you the best, I guess
Hope is the thing with feathers.
That perches in the soul,
And sings the tune without the words,
And never stops at all.
And sweetest in the gale is heard;
And sore must be the storm
That could abash the little bird
That kept so many warm.
I've heard it in the chillest land,
And on the strangest sea;
Yet, never, in extremity,
It asked a crumb of me.
-Emily Dickinson
That perches in the soul,
And sings the tune without the words,
And never stops at all.
And sweetest in the gale is heard;
And sore must be the storm
That could abash the little bird
That kept so many warm.
I've heard it in the chillest land,
And on the strangest sea;
Yet, never, in extremity,
It asked a crumb of me.
-Emily Dickinson
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