We are so happy to share that we are welcoming another sweet baby girl into our family this July! There is literally nothing sweeter than sharing the news of our growing family!
To be very honest, it still feels surreal we are pregnant again. It doesn't feel that long ago we were sharing Quinn's news! We couldn't feel more blessed or more grateful. God has blessed us immeasurably with this pregnancy and it's something we don't take for granted.
We are over the moon about giving Quinnie a sweet little sister (even though she'll have to learn how to share all her toys). I cannot wait to watch Adam become a #girldad x2 and I can't wait to see how this little sweet baby changes our whole family dynamic. I can't wait until her and Quinnie are best little friends. I can't wait for the matching outfits and the hair boys and the boy drama, that having 2 girls in our house will bring. I can't wait for when she walks, and I can't wait to hear her voice.
To say I'm excited is an understatement.
With that being said, pregnancy is not always easy. This pregnancy has brought anxiety, and guilt, and hesitancy, and worry, along with all those joyful emotions.
I'm going to speak very honestly here, so please give me some grace. When we found out we were pregnant with this baby, we weren't "trying" for this baby. Yes, we weren't using protection, but there was no tracking of periods, no timing ovulation, no planned sex. It just happened. And I think because I didn't have to work at it, it felt too good to be true.
If you're new around here, a little backstory. Adam and I tried to get pregnant with Quinn for about 9 months before we got pregnant with our first baby. We lost our first baby at 10 weeks. So when I think about Quinn, I think about the struggle and the work that went into having her. I think about the tracking apps, and the ovulation sticks, and the timed sex. I think about crying over starting my period and the longing my heart felt. So when we got pregnant with this second sweet girl, it felt like we didn't work hard enough to "deserve her."
On top of that, some of my very closest friends, women I consider my sisters have been having a hard time getting pregnant and I instantly felt guilty that here I was, easily pregnant with my second. Since then, I've had conversations with all those amazing woman who have told me not to feel this way, but it's hard not too. I have felt that sense of longing. I understand it. And my heart ached as I told these girlfriends of mine that I was pregnant when I knew they weren't. The guilt I felt and honestly still feel is heavy. And maybe that's why I waited so long to "announce it." Maybe it was my fear that this too good to be true baby was actually too good to be true.
Whatever the case, I want you to know, I'm not trying to make this a pity post or a post of you reassuring me, because that is not what this is about. This post is about joy and our sweet new baby girl.
But I also want everyone out there who is struggling to get pregnant, or struggling to find their way through this journey to be parents, that my heart is here with you, every single step. Every night when I go to bed, I pray for every person going through this isolating journey. I'm praying for your heart, for peace, and for that sweet baby you are aching for. And when you do get pregnant, I will be here, screaming from the mountain tops with all the joy I have in my heart.
Thank you for all your sweet words, your sweet texts and your encouragement. Adam and I are so lucky to have all of you in our lives to help us celebrate this sweet baby girl.
To be very honest, it still feels surreal we are pregnant again. It doesn't feel that long ago we were sharing Quinn's news! We couldn't feel more blessed or more grateful. God has blessed us immeasurably with this pregnancy and it's something we don't take for granted.
We are over the moon about giving Quinnie a sweet little sister (even though she'll have to learn how to share all her toys). I cannot wait to watch Adam become a #girldad x2 and I can't wait to see how this little sweet baby changes our whole family dynamic. I can't wait until her and Quinnie are best little friends. I can't wait for the matching outfits and the hair boys and the boy drama, that having 2 girls in our house will bring. I can't wait for when she walks, and I can't wait to hear her voice.
To say I'm excited is an understatement.
With that being said, pregnancy is not always easy. This pregnancy has brought anxiety, and guilt, and hesitancy, and worry, along with all those joyful emotions.
I'm going to speak very honestly here, so please give me some grace. When we found out we were pregnant with this baby, we weren't "trying" for this baby. Yes, we weren't using protection, but there was no tracking of periods, no timing ovulation, no planned sex. It just happened. And I think because I didn't have to work at it, it felt too good to be true.
If you're new around here, a little backstory. Adam and I tried to get pregnant with Quinn for about 9 months before we got pregnant with our first baby. We lost our first baby at 10 weeks. So when I think about Quinn, I think about the struggle and the work that went into having her. I think about the tracking apps, and the ovulation sticks, and the timed sex. I think about crying over starting my period and the longing my heart felt. So when we got pregnant with this second sweet girl, it felt like we didn't work hard enough to "deserve her."
On top of that, some of my very closest friends, women I consider my sisters have been having a hard time getting pregnant and I instantly felt guilty that here I was, easily pregnant with my second. Since then, I've had conversations with all those amazing woman who have told me not to feel this way, but it's hard not too. I have felt that sense of longing. I understand it. And my heart ached as I told these girlfriends of mine that I was pregnant when I knew they weren't. The guilt I felt and honestly still feel is heavy. And maybe that's why I waited so long to "announce it." Maybe it was my fear that this too good to be true baby was actually too good to be true.
Whatever the case, I want you to know, I'm not trying to make this a pity post or a post of you reassuring me, because that is not what this is about. This post is about joy and our sweet new baby girl.
But I also want everyone out there who is struggling to get pregnant, or struggling to find their way through this journey to be parents, that my heart is here with you, every single step. Every night when I go to bed, I pray for every person going through this isolating journey. I'm praying for your heart, for peace, and for that sweet baby you are aching for. And when you do get pregnant, I will be here, screaming from the mountain tops with all the joy I have in my heart.
Thank you for all your sweet words, your sweet texts and your encouragement. Adam and I are so lucky to have all of you in our lives to help us celebrate this sweet baby girl.
On Episode 46, Whitney and Kristen sit down with their first return guest, Sarah Boyd! Sarah Boyd is the founder and creative force behind SIMPLY, social media marketing guru, PR powerhouse, and most recently she launched Simply Digital Network, managing celebrity bloggers and executing digital strategy for brands. On this episode, we talk about creating and developing your own social media brand, trends she expects to see in 2020 (hint: Tik Tok!), the secret to influence in this digital space, and how to get creative in our content.
This episode is a MUST LISTEN for all influencers, brands, small business, or even if you just have an Instagram account. Grab your notepad and be ready to take notes from our veteran guest, Sarah Boyd.
• Connect with Sarah Boyd
• Follow along with @tglpodcast on Instagram
• Get social using #tgltuesdays
• Don't forget to stalk your hosts: @kgrace01 and @positivelyposie
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This episode is a MUST LISTEN for all influencers, brands, small business, or even if you just have an Instagram account. Grab your notepad and be ready to take notes from our veteran guest, Sarah Boyd.
• Connect with Sarah Boyd
• Follow along with @tglpodcast on Instagram
• Get social using #tgltuesdays
• Don't forget to stalk your hosts: @kgrace01 and @positivelyposie
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On episode 45, Kristen and Whitney sit down with the brilliant Justin Janoska. Justin is the founder of The Autoimmune Revolution, author of The Flexible Dieting Disaster, and specializes in Hashimoto’s, Lupus, MS, PCOS, Endometriosis. He is giving women the power to reverse their autoimmune diseases naturally. In this episode, we focus on PCOS, how you know if you might have it, what it is, and how you can recover from it. We talk about childhood trauma, early adult stress and how all of that affects your body.
Guys, this episode is thick, and dense, and full of so much great information. So grab a piece of paper and get ready to learn from Justin as we dive deep into our minds, our bodies, and how they connect.
Also, in the words of Justin - Take the high road with kindness and generosity.
Guys, this episode is thick, and dense, and full of so much great information. So grab a piece of paper and get ready to learn from Justin as we dive deep into our minds, our bodies, and how they connect.
Also, in the words of Justin - Take the high road with kindness and generosity.
- Connect with Justin on Instagram
- Purchase his book here
- Check out The Autoimmune Revolution
- Connect with This Girl Life on Instagram
- Author: The Flexible Dieting Disaster
- Clinician: Focuses on reversing autoimmune diseases; Hashimotos, Endometriosis, PCOS, Lupus, MS
- Founder of the Autoimmune Revolution
- Masters in human nutrition from University of Bridgeport
- Focuses on Mind body medicine while guiding women in healing to reverse auto immune diseases naturally
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If there is one thing to know about me, it's my love for snacks. Sweet, salty, crunchy, I literally don't discriminate. When Meli's Monster Cookies reached out to me to try their gluten-free cookies, I jumped at the chance.
I tired the Original and the Choco Lot. Guys, first things first, these cookies are SO easy to make. It only requires 3 additional ingredients to the mix, roll them into balls and bake for 10 minutes. The other cool option with these cookies, is leave out the egg and you can make energy balls! I love the option of having both recipes in one box.
Let's get into the details. These cookies are certified gluten-free, higher in protein and fiber than your typical cookie on the market. While most cookies first two ingredients are flour and sugar, Meli’s are gluten-free rolled oats and nut butter. They also use high quality ingredients with no artificial preservatives.
Ps. You can buy these on AMAZON!
Here's my last thought on these cookies - if you're going to eat them, which I'm totally going to do, I better make them a wee bit healthier.
Because I love these cookies SO much, I'm doing a little giveaway! Win your own box of Meli's Monster Cookies! There are four ways to enter, get to it!
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This is where I tell you I was gifted this product, but my review is honest!
Let's get into the details. These cookies are certified gluten-free, higher in protein and fiber than your typical cookie on the market. While most cookies first two ingredients are flour and sugar, Meli’s are gluten-free rolled oats and nut butter. They also use high quality ingredients with no artificial preservatives.
Ps. You can buy these on AMAZON!
Here's my last thought on these cookies - if you're going to eat them, which I'm totally going to do, I better make them a wee bit healthier.
Because I love these cookies SO much, I'm doing a little giveaway! Win your own box of Meli's Monster Cookies! There are four ways to enter, get to it!
It feels like it's been forever since I was last at Evereve and my gosh, did I miss it! They are currently transitioning to spring and I am so dang excited. I can't wait for warm weather, sunshine and dresses.
This try-on I focused on more basic, casual pieces. Ya know, the ones that transition well from cold to warm, but also are just down right comfortable. Happy shopping!
OUTFIT ONE:
Tee: Chaser New Mexico Tee. I'm obsessed with graphic tees. OBSESSED.
Sweater: Allison Joy Conroy Hot Pink Cardigan. The thing I like most about this sweater is it's cropped and a little boxy. Plus the bright pink is the best and most brightest!
Jeans: Agolde Toni Mid Rise Straight. I am currently obsessed with straight leg jeans. I find them more comfortable than skinnys and I love the way they look with sneakers. I'm wearing a 28. They have minimal stretch to them, but are seriously so comfortable. They are not super high rise, but mid-rise. And, the light wash makes me so excited for everything spring and bright colors.
Sneakers: J/Slides Sallie Wedge Sneaker (in black) and J/Slides Sallie Wedge Sneaker (in tan). These are my most favorite sneakers. They are hi-rise, have a slight wedge and overall just very comfortable. I'm wearing a size 9, my true size and they fit perfectly.
OUTFIT TWO:
Sweatshirt: Free People Ombre Metti Crew. I wear this every other day. I am not joking. Adam asked me the other day when I was going to wash it. It's oversized, SO comfortable and so warm. It's a thicker texture. I can't say enough good things about this sweatshirt.
Jeans: Agolde Toni Mid Rise Straight. I am currently obsessed with straight leg jeans. I find them more comfortable than skinnys and I love the way they look with sneakers. I'm wearing a 28. They have minimal stretch to them, but are seriously so comfortable. They are not super high rise, but mid-rise. And, the light wash makes me so excited for everything spring and bright colors.
Sneakers: J/Slides Sallie Wedge Sneaker (in black) and J/Slides Sallie Wedge Sneaker (in tan). These are my most favorite sneakers. They are hi-rise, have a slight wedge and overall just very comfortable. I'm wearing a size 9, my true size and they fit perfectly. I wear them with everything.
OUTFIT THREE:
Jeans: Agolde Toni Mid Rise Straight. I am currently obsessed with straight leg jeans. I find them more comfortable than skinnys and I love the way they look with sneakers. I'm wearing a 28. They have minimal stretch to them, but are seriously so comfortable. They are not super high rise, but mid-rise. And, the light wash makes me so excited for everything spring and bright colors.
Sweatshirt: Free People Solid Metti Crew. I wear this every other day. I am not joking. Adam asked me the other day when I was going to wash it. It's oversized, SO comfortable and so warm. It's a thicker texture. I can't say enough good things about this sweatshirt.
Sneakers: J/Slides Sallie Wedge Sneaker (in black) and J/Slides Sallie Wedge Sneaker (in tan). These are my most favorite sneakers. They are hi-rise, have a slight wedge and overall just very comfortable. I'm wearing a size 9, my true size and they fit perfectly.
OUTFIT FOUR:
Jacket: This one is unfortunately sold out :( but I've linked two more for you! Paige Denim
Rowan Jacket With Vintage Pocket and Paige Denim Cropped Jo-Jo Jacket. I am a firm believer that you can never have too many jean jackets and this one is so cute. It's two-toned which I love.
Tee: Z Supply Mini Leopard Tee. Don't be afraid to wear leopard. This is a great way to add in a little animal print but not have it be overwhelming. Plus this shirt is $39.
Pants: Cloth And Stone Satin Trimmed Cargo Pant. I love the idea of not wearing jeans all the time but these have a satin trim so they feel a little fancier. This is a perfect mom outfit, put together but comfy! I'm wearing a 28 - TTS!
Sneakers: J/Slides Sallie Wedge Sneaker (in black) and J/Slides Sallie Wedge Sneaker (in tan). These are my most favorite sneakers. They are hi-rise, have a slight wedge and overall just very comfortable. I'm wearing a size 9, my true size and they fit perfectly.
OUTFIT FIVE:
Tee: Z Supply Mini Leopard Tee. Don't be afraid to wear leopard. This is a great way to add in a little animal print but not have it be overwhelming. Plus this shirt is $39.
Jacket: Anorak Surplus Jacket. I love a good jacket that you can layer over anything. This one is so cute because you tighten the back and make it a little more fitted.
Pants: Cloth And Stone Satin Trimmed Cargo Pant. I love the idea of not wearing jeans all the time but these have a satin trim so they feel a little fancier. This is a perfect mom outfit, put together but comfy! I'm wearing a 28 - TTS!
Sneakers: J/Slides Sallie Wedge Sneaker (in black) and J/Slides Sallie Wedge Sneaker (in tan). These are my most favorite sneakers. They are hi-rise, have a slight wedge and overall just very comfortable. I'm wearing a size 9, my true size and they fit perfectly.
OUTFIT SIX:
Top: Rails Charli Gold Metallic Stars Button Down. A fancy way to dress up sweats, yes, yes, yes. This would be so cute with jeans too :)
Pants: Cloth And Stone Satin Trimmed Cargo Pant. I love the idea of not wearing jeans all the time but these have a satin trim so they feel a little fancier. This is a perfect mom outfit, put together but comfy! I'm wearing a 28 - TTS!
Shoes: Sorel Nadia Lace. Did you know Sorel makes sandals!? I had no clue. Add the comfort of Sorels into sandals. I love the lace up details so much. I'm wearing a 9, true to size.
OUTFIT SEVEN:
Jumper: Peyton Jensen Christiana Tie Dye Jumpsuit. I'm a sucker for a good jumpsuit. I love the pattern of this one and it's perfect for spring! It's cropped at the ankle and cinched at the waist. I'm wearing a medium and it fits true to size!
Jacket: Kut From The Kloth Amelia Denim Jacket. Remember what I said about jean jackets - you can never have too many. Having a white one in your wardrobe is a must have. It's perfect for summer and spring.
Heels: Kenneth Cole Olcott Wedge Sandal. These shoes are magic. They are the most comfortable wedges I've ever worn and I love the bright red. They are cute with jeans and dresses. PLUS they are on SALE for $47!! Do it.
OUTFIT EIGHT:
Dress: Bb Dakota Something About Dots Midi Dress. In this picture I'm wearing a medium, but I'd probably size down. It's fitted right below the chest and then is perfect and flowy. This dress would be so cute paired with sneakers, heels, sandals, everything. I can't wait to bust this out in the spring!
Jacket: This one is unfortunately sold out :( but I've linked two more for you! Paige Denim
Rowan Jacket With Vintage Pocket and Paige Denim Cropped Jo-Jo Jacket
Heels: Kenneth Cole Olcott Wedge Sandal. These shoes are magic. They are the most comfortable wedges I've ever worn and I love the bright red. They are cute with jeans and dresses. PLUS they are on SALE for $47!! Do it.
Here's an entire video of the try-on! Enjoy!
On Episode 44, it's a solo episode as Whitney & Kristen go guestless! The girls are sharing about how to work smarter not harder and what slowing down will actually do for your life. We are all constantly hustling to grow our spaces and careers, but that hustle lifestyle can easily cause burn out and frustration. So we are chilling out this week and re-focusing on the how amazing slow down can be.
This Episode is brought to you by Blooms Journal.
We wanted to take a pause to tell you about Bloom Journals! They are monthly journals dedicated to your self- care. You know how we feel about self care here on TGL— it’s a top priority for us. Bloom is a monthly themed journal; the theme and focus changes every single month, so you’re consistently growing and developing. Kristen and I truly believe that journaling is a powerful ways to reconnect with yourself, release your emotions, reflect, and ‘bloom’ to a new you. Here are all the deets- their current journal available for Feb is on point with everything we chat about on TGL... it’s focused on self-love, and putting yourself first again, learning what is triggering negative beliefs about yourself, and setting weekly goals to keep you moving forward on your self love journey in 2020. I know what you’re thinking. How do you get yourself a bloom journal? They have a membership where you pay $17.95/month and every month they send you your new journal. We did a little math and basically one month of Bloom is the same cost of 4 iced grande caramel macchiatos from Starbucks. So as we say here on TGL, put your self care and mental health before the Starbucks and try bloom journals now!
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- Don't forget to stalk your hosts: @kgrace01 and @positivelyposie
This Episode is brought to you by Blooms Journal.
We wanted to take a pause to tell you about Bloom Journals! They are monthly journals dedicated to your self- care. You know how we feel about self care here on TGL— it’s a top priority for us. Bloom is a monthly themed journal; the theme and focus changes every single month, so you’re consistently growing and developing. Kristen and I truly believe that journaling is a powerful ways to reconnect with yourself, release your emotions, reflect, and ‘bloom’ to a new you. Here are all the deets- their current journal available for Feb is on point with everything we chat about on TGL... it’s focused on self-love, and putting yourself first again, learning what is triggering negative beliefs about yourself, and setting weekly goals to keep you moving forward on your self love journey in 2020. I know what you’re thinking. How do you get yourself a bloom journal? They have a membership where you pay $17.95/month and every month they send you your new journal. We did a little math and basically one month of Bloom is the same cost of 4 iced grande caramel macchiatos from Starbucks. So as we say here on TGL, put your self care and mental health before the Starbucks and try bloom journals now!
- Visit BloomsJournal.com
- And connect with Blooms Journals on Instagram
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On episode 43, Kristen and Whitney sit down with actress, philanthropist, documentary maker, and tv buff, Cassie Scerbo. On this episode we chat about her charity Boo2Bullying, some of her cult classics like Sharknado and Make it or Break it, and why Parkland, Florida has such a huge place in her heart. This episode is sweet, emotional, and showcases how a great actress has used her platform and popularity for so much more.
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It's the first Monday of February! After the longest month, we made it.
January was a weird month for me. There were a lot of amazing ups and some heavy lows. It felt like it was 89382 days long and some days felt like it would never end. But after 31 long January days, we made it, and honestly this was a huge month of growth for me. It was growth I didn't quite know I needed.
I guess the best part about January being 5 months long is that it gave me plenty of time for thinking, praying and extra time with my family.
Here's what January taught me:
God answers prayers. I always "knew" that and believed in it, but this month I really saw it in action, in a very tangible way. I literally saw God answer a prayer within 3 days and it was pure magic. It reminded me that we don't always know why things happen but if we are diligent and trusting, God's plan is so great.
Have tough conversations. You've heard me say this 100x, but I hate confrontation. Most of the time I can just get over things that bug me and move forward. But this month, I had a talk with a gf of mine and it gave us a breakthrough we've probably needed for the last 15 years. I think it was therapeutic for both of us. And in time, it's made us even closer, and allowed us to talk better.
Laugh really hard. It's easy to go through a work day and never really laugh. Sure Quinn makes me laugh and Adam and I joke, but I mean like watch Ellen scare people on her show and die laughing. Watch Ali Wong standup. Watch old SNL videos and really freaking laugh. It's the best feeling.
The teeny details are really the big ones. The "I'm proud of yous", the smiles, the text messages. Those are the things that can mean more than the big grand gestures. Don't get me wrong I love a grand gesture, but Im learning to show the little things more.
Always order dessert. Even if your version of dessert is coffee, or sorbet, or fruit. There's something about the waiters clearing the plates and continuing the conversation over something other than your steak. And, there's always room for ice cream.
Talk to your friends. I'm still working on this one. But I'm learning that while I know my friends, sometimes I avoid the awkward conversations because they are awkward. I want to start actually talking to my friends. I want to know their worries and their struggles and their joys. I want to actually talk to my friends and have real conversations. I'm not 100% how to make this happen, but I'm working on it.
Date your husband. This is something Adam and I have tried to make a priority ever since we had Quinn. It's hard with a baby and jobs, but it's our time to get back to us. Even if it's just going to sit at the bar of our local brewery. It gives us time to talk to each other and not just co-exist. It's honestly the best.
Snuggle your baby. This is hard because honestly sometimes by 7pm (bedtime) I am so ready not to hold someone. I really don't want anyone to touch me. I just want to sit alone. But then the second she goes to bed I feel sad and miss her so incredibly much that I spend the new few hours looking at pictures. So, take the extra time, snuggle your baby, give more kisses, give more hugs, because you never know when she won't let you do that anymore.
It's okay to feel sad. When Kobe died last week, I felt weird about how sad I felt. And then I read something that said, "It's okay to feel the grief of a person you don't know. It show's the immensity of that person on humanity. For one person to have that effect on another is an amazing thing. It’s a measure of a life." WOW. So that day and a few days after, I let myself cry. I let myself grieve his death even though I had never met him.
Celebrate every day not just the big days. Every day we get to be on this earth is a day worth celebrating. Every day we get to wake up next to our spouse and hug our kids is a day we should celebrate. Every day we get to talk to our parents, chat with our friends, grab a coffee, go to work, pet our dogs, is a day we should celebrate. Yep, some days are hard, but we're here.
Long months just mean extra time for reflection - what did you learn this month?
January was a weird month for me. There were a lot of amazing ups and some heavy lows. It felt like it was 89382 days long and some days felt like it would never end. But after 31 long January days, we made it, and honestly this was a huge month of growth for me. It was growth I didn't quite know I needed.
I guess the best part about January being 5 months long is that it gave me plenty of time for thinking, praying and extra time with my family.
Here's what January taught me:
God answers prayers. I always "knew" that and believed in it, but this month I really saw it in action, in a very tangible way. I literally saw God answer a prayer within 3 days and it was pure magic. It reminded me that we don't always know why things happen but if we are diligent and trusting, God's plan is so great.
Have tough conversations. You've heard me say this 100x, but I hate confrontation. Most of the time I can just get over things that bug me and move forward. But this month, I had a talk with a gf of mine and it gave us a breakthrough we've probably needed for the last 15 years. I think it was therapeutic for both of us. And in time, it's made us even closer, and allowed us to talk better.
Laugh really hard. It's easy to go through a work day and never really laugh. Sure Quinn makes me laugh and Adam and I joke, but I mean like watch Ellen scare people on her show and die laughing. Watch Ali Wong standup. Watch old SNL videos and really freaking laugh. It's the best feeling.
The teeny details are really the big ones. The "I'm proud of yous", the smiles, the text messages. Those are the things that can mean more than the big grand gestures. Don't get me wrong I love a grand gesture, but Im learning to show the little things more.
Always order dessert. Even if your version of dessert is coffee, or sorbet, or fruit. There's something about the waiters clearing the plates and continuing the conversation over something other than your steak. And, there's always room for ice cream.
Talk to your friends. I'm still working on this one. But I'm learning that while I know my friends, sometimes I avoid the awkward conversations because they are awkward. I want to start actually talking to my friends. I want to know their worries and their struggles and their joys. I want to actually talk to my friends and have real conversations. I'm not 100% how to make this happen, but I'm working on it.
Date your husband. This is something Adam and I have tried to make a priority ever since we had Quinn. It's hard with a baby and jobs, but it's our time to get back to us. Even if it's just going to sit at the bar of our local brewery. It gives us time to talk to each other and not just co-exist. It's honestly the best.
Snuggle your baby. This is hard because honestly sometimes by 7pm (bedtime) I am so ready not to hold someone. I really don't want anyone to touch me. I just want to sit alone. But then the second she goes to bed I feel sad and miss her so incredibly much that I spend the new few hours looking at pictures. So, take the extra time, snuggle your baby, give more kisses, give more hugs, because you never know when she won't let you do that anymore.
It's okay to feel sad. When Kobe died last week, I felt weird about how sad I felt. And then I read something that said, "It's okay to feel the grief of a person you don't know. It show's the immensity of that person on humanity. For one person to have that effect on another is an amazing thing. It’s a measure of a life." WOW. So that day and a few days after, I let myself cry. I let myself grieve his death even though I had never met him.
Celebrate every day not just the big days. Every day we get to be on this earth is a day worth celebrating. Every day we get to wake up next to our spouse and hug our kids is a day we should celebrate. Every day we get to talk to our parents, chat with our friends, grab a coffee, go to work, pet our dogs, is a day we should celebrate. Yep, some days are hard, but we're here.
Long months just mean extra time for reflection - what did you learn this month?
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