12 pieces of pregnancy & parenting advice

August 13, 2018

The best (insert eye-roll) thing about pregnancy is the advice you get.  From the old lady at the grocery store to your great-aunt, people LOVE telling pregnant women what they should and shouldn't do. I've been lucky to get away pretty unscathed, but you'd be surprised people.

Just the other day I was at the Lexus dealership waiting for my car and working on my laptop when a man asked me what I was doing. I said I was working and he said that couldn't be true because I was pregnant and I should be focused on my baby. Honestly, I don't even know how to react when people talk to me like this.

Why do people talk to pregnant people like this?

But, in spite of the bad comments, I've gotten some really great advice. Some I never thought about before but am glad I was told. So lets talk the good, the bad and the funny.  And hey, sorry if your comment was in the bad, maybe take it as a hint?


Let your husband parent the way he chooses to parent. I heard this piece of advice at my gf Kate's baby shower and I love the sentiment. Sure, your hubs may not change the diaper the way you do, but does it stay on? Great. He doesn't sing the lullaby you sing? Who cares, he is SINGING to your baby, let him sing. I cannot wait to see how Adam loves and parents our little girl and my goal is to let him do it how he chooses. 

The days are long, the years are short. When you're crying in the middle of the night because your baby wont sleep, remember there will come a time when your child sleeps until noon and doesn't let you rock her to sleep anymore. This one makes me cry and I don't even have a baby yet. 

It’s your kid and your prerogative. I love this because let's be real, the mom guilt/shame is real and at the end of the day, she is my kid. How I chose to parent is up to me and how others chose to parent is up to them. I'm staying focused on what Adam and I want to do for our daughter and what we think is best. Regardless of other peoples opinion, guilt or shame.

Sleep now, run errands now, go on dates with your husband. This one is great because yes life is going to change. We're taking advantage of the time we have now, just us two, before life changes big time.


Eating candy/yogurt/sno cones will kill your baby. This was at the checkout line at Safeway (twice) and Bahama Bucks. I was craving starbursts and ya know what, starbursts are what I got and they were damn delicious. I always wonder when people say things like this. Do you think they'd say that to me if I wasn't pregnant?

With my next baby, I want to gain as much weight as you're gaining, so I can have a fat baby. I think this was intended as a compliment? But all I heard was you're gaining a lot of weight. 

You're too pregnant to do.... (insert literally anything and everything). Can't walk up the stairs, sit for too long, stand for too long, stay out past 10, walk around, dance, go on walks, work out, carry your purse, push the grocery cart, walk the dogs, bend over, lift grocery bags, push Target cart, ect, ect. Ay. 

Let your baby sleep in your room for the first year, or else they may die. Listen. I have no clue how long this baby is going to sleep in my room. But if you come at me giving me advice that ends with "your baby will die" stop what you're doing. 

Don't drink coffee, your baby will come out with _____.  (While ordering a decaf coffee at Starbucks). This happened almost every time I order in public at Starbucks. Fill in the blank with, 2 heads, short arms, a heart problem, ADHD, diabetes. Wanna know how I answered? By grabbing my decaf latte and walking away. 


Don't let your father, father-in-law or anyone but you use your hospital bathroom, it's a blood bath. Guys, without going into the gory details, this makes me laugh so hard. A human just slipped through your body, there is bound to be blood and sometimes more than you can handle. Suggest they walk down the hall to use the public (clean) bathroom. 

Take the mesh panties from the hospital. Take everything. Real talk, pads become a part of your life post baby (so I've been told) and apparently the mesh panties are amazing. Take the snot sucker, the diapers, the blankets, the pads, the kleenex, everything. Take it. You're paying for it anyways. 

Labor is really hard and really messy and they just pull stuff out of you, just go with it. This is hilar but also terrifies me. Everyone has told me that once you're holding your baby you forget all the gory stuff, but "just going with it" when a doc is pulling stuff out of you, freaks me out. Wish me luck peeps. 

Happy Monday friends! What pregnancy advice did you get? 

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  1. These were so cute! I am still on my maternity leave with my three week old from my blog at Freshly Messy, but these are so cute!

  2. Haha I love this! I am totally going to keep these in mind for the future.

  3. DUDE YES to taking everything from the hospital! I didn't even think to do that, and my nurse is the one who suggested I take everything and I'm so glad I did! haha!


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