2 Years Later: What I'd tell my unmarried self about marriage

May 8, 2017

Happy Monday friends! Here's your warning that tomorrow is my two-year wedding anniversary, so the next two days are going to be heavily wedding oriented. This last weekend, Adam and I took a last minute trip to Breckenridge. We loaded both pups in the car and ventured to the mountains. If you've never been to Breck, stop everything and book a trip. Breck isn't the most glamorous mountain town, but it is my favorite. Adam said it best, as we pulled onto Main Street, he said, "is it weird how homey Breck feels to me." Me too, Adam, me too.

We ventured the town, watched the Derby, had great meals and enjoyed being away from home for the night. It was the best weekend celebrating us. Two years.

This time, two years ago, I was one day away from being a wife. The countdown was over, the wedding was here. The planning that took 11 months had finally finished and it was time to celebrate and get married!

Two years ago, I was toasting with my girlfriends, rehearsing for my big walk down the aisle and prepping my mind and heart for what it meant to become a wife. Adam and I dated for 4 years before we got married so a part of me thought I knew what I was getting in to, little did I know how much I didn't actually know.

Let's be real, I don't pretend to be an expert on marriage by anyyyyy means. But, I've learned a lot in two years and I cannot wait for all the other stuff I'm going to learn in the next years.

Becoming a wife is hands down one of the best things I've ever done in my life. It's been the most rewarding and fun experience. Tomorrow's post is all the things I want to tell Adam. Today, it's all about me. These are the things I'd tell myself if I could go back in time to that day two years ago.
I'd tell myself that marriage is going to be better than I could even imagine. I'd tell myself that everything I assumed marriage would be like, is even better. I'd tell myself  marriage is work. That choosing to love someone every day is a choice, not a given. I would tell myself that there would be days, just regular days, but those would be the days  I'd look at Adam in awe he choose me. Marriage is fun. Life is way more fun with someone you can do life with. I would tell myself that you will watch a lot of football, but he'll watch RHOC and RHOBH with you. You will both watch The Bachelor because he will support your blogging career with everything he has. I'd tell myself that being a wife is a blessing. It's a blessing to love another person and to be loved in return. I'd remind myself no one is perfect, but choosing to love the imperfections is where your marriage will find its depth. Laughing cures most fights. I'd remind myself that this vow of marriage is not only a vow in front of friends and family, but in the presence of God. I'd remind myself that no one other act is that way. I'd tell myself about the journeys that Adam and I would experience as a couple and how amazing they are. I'd tell myself to give myself and Adam grace. We're young lovers figuring how to do marriage together, for the first time and for the last time. I would remind myself to thank Adam repeatedly for taking Instagram pictures for you. I would tell myself that Adam doesn't know how to load a dishwasher, but to show your appreciation to him when he tries. Speak kindly, show love and kiss often. I would tell myself marriage is the greatest thing ever and to never take it lightly, but to take ourselves lightly. Make promises, keep them and make more. Travel together. Encourage each other, push each other. Wipe his tears because trust me, he will wipe way more of yours. Love each other unconditionally and tell each other often. 
For those of you married, what would you tell yourself if you could go back? What would you remind yourself of? What's the best part of marriage in your opinion? Let's chat. Tell me your thoughts on marriage in the comments.

Tomorrow, we're celebrating the big 2 year mark. I'll be sharing my renewed vows to Adam. It's a tear-jerker, you don't want to miss it.

Happy Monday friends, lets make it a great one.

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  1. 2 years later and I'm still just as obsessed with your rehearsal dinner dress! Congrats to you both!

  2. Congratulations! We'll be celebrating our 10 year anniversary this fall. It's so hard to believe, as it feels like it was just yesterday we were married. We've grown so much in 10 years and, despite the ups and downs, I wouldn't change a thing.

  3. Happy Anniversary. This July 18th I will be celebrating 24 years of marriage. I would tell myself that marriage can be bumpy and messy at times but it is also absolutely worth it.

  4. This was really sweet, happy anniversary! My hubby and I are at 1 year, 8 months, so I can totally relate!

  5. This is precious! Congrats on your two years. :) I'm still waiting for the right one, but can't wait to venture together!

  6. Congrats on 2 years! Marriage is such a blessing. Definitely not always easy... but most things that are great are not always easy.

  7. What a great post! Congrats on your anniversary! And my husband and I have been wanting to visit Breckenridge so I hope we get to go next winter!

  8. This is so sweet! Happy anniversary. We've only been married for 6 months but I can already tell the years are just going to fly haha.

  9. I'm actually about to get married, but we've been together for almost 8 years now so we've figured out a lot about each other over the years. I absolutely love this post, so sweet and cute! And happy anniversary!

  10. I'm engaged and the more things I decide for the wedding, the more excited I am just to be his wife. We've only been engaged for 2 months, but the thought has already crossed my mind to skip out on the elaborate (expensive) wedding and just go to the court house. This post literally brought tears to my eyes b/c as I await the day I'm finally his wife all I can think about is feeling exactly how you do. This was beautiful Kristen and I wish you and Adam many years of love, peace, and happiness!

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I love hearing from all of you and greatly appreciate all your feedback and comments! xx Kristen